If your child struggles with anxiety and worry, you know all too well how powerful these emotions can be. Anxiety can control our thoughts, change our behavior, and wreak havoc on a child’s self-image. Here’s what’s happening internally when anxiety spikes and how it might present:

You can’t trust your thoughts.

Anxiety changes the way we understand and process information. It moves us from a state of rational, objective thinking to an instinctual place of fear and survival. That means thoughts like, “I can’t do this,” or, “They were laughing at me,” come in strong and feel like truth. You may also notice your child’s thoughts spiraling out of control as they jump to believing the worst case scenario. 

Here are some awareness and reframing activities you can use at home to help your child better manage anxious thoughts.

Behaviors are driven by a need for safety.

When our brain and body believe we’re in danger (whether that danger is real or imagined), self-protection is the only priority. Behaviorally this can look like avoidance, shutting down, or even lashing out. These behaviors are automatic. They are not choices.

Physiological changes spread internally.

Hand in hand with behavioral changes come physiological ones. As our brain and body prioritize safety, they make internal shifts to best prepare us for survival – increased heart rate, digestive changes, a rush of adrenaline, shallow and rapid breathing. These changes do not feel good, and you may notice your child complaining of stomach aches or light headedness when feeling anxious.

Anxiety is physical, commanding, and convincing. For parents, our children’s anxiety can seem irrational at times. For kids, it can feel out of their control. Use these strategies to help your child feel calmer during anxious moments.

You can also help your child build stronger overall emotional regulation skills, which will help with their anxiety, by utilizing Mightier’s digital mental health tool.  As your child plays Mightier games, they’ll be exploring their emotions and practicing relaxation and regulation skills throughout their play. Their growing ability to feel calmer and more in control of their emotions will not prevent them from ever feeling anxious, but it will allow them the chance to manage their anxiety in healthier and more productive ways. Start a free trial to see the difference Mightier can make for your child!